Saturday, December 09, 2006

Calling a spade a spade

Thanks for all the emails and comments. I guess I just have to admit it once and for all though.

Sure, first there was Nano and between work and that, I hardly had time breathe. But I'm pleased to announce I've successfully completed Nano.

And now I have no excuses, so I guess I should call a temporary hiatus in the hopes I'll some day return to blogging. Maybe on some other site where my "real" family and friends can't find me. I find it really difficult to write here now that I know they might be reading it. Weird, I know, but I can't help it. I mean, if you knew my MIL, you wouldn't think that :)

So until I'm back, I still hope to occasionally visit you all. I do lurk around even if I say nothing.

For temporary hiatus -- Cheers!

28 comments:

Bill said...

I went anonymous 6 months ago and never looked back. It's true that once you know friends, family and co-workers might be reading your blog you tend to censor yourself - well, you do if you have anything interesting to say.

The difficult part is keeping yourself TOTALLY anonymous. The temptation is always there to point 'just one person' to a particular post, but once you start, there's no stopping, and pretty soon everyone knows who you are again. My advice: start an anonymous blog and don't even tell your other half where to find it. The freedom that comes with TOTAL anonymity is just mind blowing. No looking over your shoulder, no worrying about so-and-so reading it and drawing correct or incorrect conclusions - write what you want about whatever subject you want, and never mind how out-there what you say might be.

Trée said...

Melly, great to know you are okay. As for the family and friends thing, I understand. I had the same concern until I realized my family, friends and co-workers think my blog is so boring they all stopped visiting a long time ago. Hell, I can't even force them to visit my blog anymore. You would think when I asked them, it was an act of torture. So my advice--be more boring and you'll have no worries. :-D

If you do create that other blog, I hope you will let me know. I have one of those too. ;-)

Jean said...

I've mentioned mine to my family, but I don't think any of them visit. If they do, they don't acknowledge it.

On the other hand, hubby found one of mine by accident a few years ago, complained mightily about the invasion of our privacy by some of the things I was posting. I reviewed what he was complaining about, modified some posts, deleted one or two, and have tried to be less revealing and personal since. Since my purpose is for writing and some generic things about a writer, I think it works. To my knowledge, he's never checked again, even though he said he would. I try to respect his wishes on matters of privacy. He doesn't really get why I do it, but I don't talk to him about it much, and he doesn't ask.

Deborah said...

First of, congratulations on completing NaNo. That is awesome!

As for the fam reading my blogs, I made it a rule from the beginning never to post anything too personal. So far, I haven't gotten any complaints.

I hope you return to blogging soon because I really enjoyed your posts, both on writing and the war.

fred charles said...

I can understand. My family and friends do not know about my blog. It's not that I'm embarrassed about the content, I just know that I would alter and censor what I write if I knew they were reading. And if I have to do that, why bother?

rdl said...

Melly,
I'll miss you but i understand completely - i think of that myself. please let me know when you morph into something else.
Cheers!

Erin O'Brien said...

My blog is public and considering the content, that's saying something. Maybe one day I'll jump on over to the anonymous side of things ...

Benjamin Solah said...

It's good to hear from you Melly, and congrats for finishing NaNo - that's quite an effort.

For a while, I knew some of my family were reading my blog and it kind of held me back, particularly in terms of politics because a lot of my family is pretty racist. But as far as I know, they don't read it anymore, or they just don't say a lot.

We hope to see you back soon!

The Phoenix said...

Way to go!!!

I'm a big-time lurker as well, but I came out just to say, Happy Holidays!

michaelm said...

Wanted to stop by and wish you a Merry Christmas. Here's to the new year!

~m

Deltron Blonde said...

Tryin' to make sense of the world? Or just writing for the F... of it... just experimenting with writing, on a casual theme. We thought maybe if we started deconstructing every ideology, piece of music, literature, etc, we might have a chance of substituting all we know for the tested...Like your blog, leave me a comment at http://www.theinterdisciplinaryforum.blogspot.com/ and we'll talk...later

Patry Francis said...

Hope you let me know when you return! Till then, wishing you peace and productivity in 2007. xo Patry

Marewheeee said...

Me too.
I got to your blog through When I Grow Up by rdl.
Liked the posts on Dark Matter and Creativity and Insanity.
I've realized in the past dozen years or so that there are advantages to "having an 'artistic' personality", as my family members have referred to it since my youth.
It's so much easier to admit that I'm
a bit odd and just live with it :D
Adds a little ring of truth to our human condition, dontcha think?

Jean said...

Happy New Year. Here's wishing you health and prosperity.

Buffy said...

I have the same 'Family Problem'.

So I've started an anonymous blog to rant.

Not all of us can be Stephanie Klein.

Kathleen Bolton said...

Let us know when you return to blogging, Melly! I'll miss your insightful posts until then.

Wayne said...

Persevere — stay with it — hang in there: sooner or later family, friends co-workers and critics tire of your rambling and drivel. Shortly thereafter, wild horses couldn't drag them to your blog...!

Princess Haiku said...

I hope you return as you have a great site; just full of useful information for writers. I linked so that I can easily come back.

fredcharles said...

Just wanted to drop in and say hi. Hope all is well.

Patry Francis said...

Hi, Melly. Hope you return one of these days...

Benjamin Solah said...

Hey Melly, just wondering if you're still around. We'd love to hear from you again.

Orhan Kahn said...

Such a shame to abandon such a handsome blog.

rdl said...

Melly oh melly won't you come out and play. we miss you.

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rdl said...

still deserted :( well one can only hope.

jackpayne said...

Seems I'm missing something here. Apparently this was a great Blog. Blogs never die. They don't fade away either. Reinstatement is sure to follow.

I'm new to blogging. Don't understand what makes this tick. My Blog stuff is being picked up on bookmarking sites, and is listed on Page 1 for Legal Thriller on MSN. Yet, I have no comments, nothing to indicate that actual warm bodies are reading it. Puzzling. Deep down puzzling.

easywriter said...

Melly I don't know if you will ever read this but I just want you to know I'm back blogginh and hope that if you ever do come back you'll let me know, please.

rdl said...

when i see an asterik next to yr. blog on my blogroll & i get all excited but also no Melly; just comments from Melly lovers. I think Mr. Jack Payne said it well- apparently this was a great blog...
and Mr. Payne if you check back here, the reason that you don't have any visitors may be that you haven't updated yr. blogger profile to point us in the direction of yr. blog.