tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post115076076918625973..comments2023-10-08T07:21:56.107-04:00Comments on All Kinds of Writing: Another predictable research - Men misinterpret and oversexualize cuesMellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1153711881705340382006-07-23T23:31:00.000-04:002006-07-23T23:31:00.000-04:00well of course, i didnt mean to imply you should h...well of course, i didnt mean to imply you should hurt people in your pursuit of happiness. as long as you dont hit me in the face you can swing your arm wherever you want...or, something like that.whiskeypailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634705091517393222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1151523840966874902006-06-28T15:44:00.000-04:002006-06-28T15:44:00.000-04:00Whiskeypail, something resonates true with what yo...Whiskeypail, something resonates true with what you're saying about right and wrong, yet for me, I'd rather live my life without hurting anyone.Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1151463201044048982006-06-27T22:53:00.000-04:002006-06-27T22:53:00.000-04:00i only meant that my friends would try to talk to ...i only meant that my friends would try to talk to them in a convincing manner(i.e. askin for numbers, trying to persuade them to hangout at some later date, possibly trying to "get some").<BR/>like most things, im pretty agnostic regarding human behavior. right and wrong dont mean much since morality is so subjective. the only thing that makes sense to me is to follow the ol golden rule and to do whatever i want to within that rule set. <BR/>it seems to be workin out ok. <BR/><BR/>...and those instincts are what got us here to begin with...whiskeypailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634705091517393222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1151154478681853612006-06-24T09:07:00.000-04:002006-06-24T09:07:00.000-04:00whiskeypail, ah yeah, language :)You're so right a...whiskeypail, ah yeah, language :)<BR/><BR/>You're so right about how the attributes of alpha males changed with our society.<BR/><BR/>What do you mean by aggressive and what kind of friends do you keep if I think I understand 'agressive'???<BR/><BR/>My question is, and this is something I can't figure out from your comments: I understand the so-called instincts, but do you excuse such behaviour because of them?<BR/>I assume you don't.Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1151104413587974832006-06-23T19:13:00.000-04:002006-06-23T19:13:00.000-04:00language schmanguage. i was only half joking. this...language schmanguage. <BR/><BR/>i was only half joking. this reminds me of a conversation i had with a friend about how the typically physical alpha male has become the successful, or wealthy alpha male. security comes in different forms these days. <BR/>it also reminds me of several friends of mine who all play the numbers game. if 1 out of 10 girls is interested in them, then 10 out of a hundred will talk to them. theyll go after as many girls they can in a night just looking for that 1 out of 100 or 1000 or whatever. any little thing a woman can do to express even mild interest is enough for them to be aggressive.whiskeypailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634705091517393222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150981543202199632006-06-22T09:05:00.000-04:002006-06-22T09:05:00.000-04:00Eric, I hear what you're saying.But as always, and...Eric, I hear what you're saying.<BR/>But as always, and perhaps an obvious reminder is that our instincts do not absolve us from bad behavior and from our strive to be better than chimps at the very least :)<BR/>(BTW, I'm not sure "a lot of sexual aggression is fueled by embarassment or rejection" - do you have anything to support that?<BR/>The other thing is of course - boo hoo. As I said, first, the study shows that males misinterpret cues regardless of female behaviour and second, it is onle the male's problem he misinterprets cues, no one elses! And that is something I haven't heard from you yet, and maybe because it's obvious).<BR/><BR/>Whiskeypail, I don't know you so I'm not sure how serious to take you. My instinct :) was to laugh, assuming the best about human behavior and assuming that while you may talk in earnest about insticts, you do know we are more than our instincts. Sorry if I sound preachy, but as I said, I don't know you (yet) but hope to get to know you better.<BR/>Oh, and if you don't mind, I try to keep this blog PG-13.Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150967142720666632006-06-22T05:05:00.000-04:002006-06-22T05:05:00.000-04:00you make a very good point, redchurch, and though ...you make a very good point, redchurch, and though implied, you all need to remember that our only instinctual goals are to fuck and to survive. voluntary sexual partners are secondary according to instinct.whiskeypailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634705091517393222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150939020190902422006-06-21T21:17:00.000-04:002006-06-21T21:17:00.000-04:00LOL, Whiskeypail.You're a very lucky guy, I'd say ...LOL, Whiskeypail.<BR/>You're a very lucky guy, I'd say :)Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150938747428239562006-06-21T21:12:00.000-04:002006-06-21T21:12:00.000-04:00you will all most likely hate this:http://whiskeyp...you will all most likely hate this:<BR/>http://whiskeypail.blogspot.com/<BR/><BR/>but it should be noted that unless its completely apparent, i dont sexualize any action...it just happens that im around a lot of drunk and horny girls.whiskeypailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09634705091517393222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150934028520244022006-06-21T19:53:00.000-04:002006-06-21T19:53:00.000-04:00Eric, you make some good points and it's good to h...Eric, you make some good points and it's good to hear the male perspective. I already know the female's ;)<BR/>Naturally I would say that if a guy gets depressed because he misinterprests cues it's his problem and his problem alone. A woman cannot be accountable for being friendly.<BR/>But what's interesting is that the study claims it has nothing to do with how much the woman is friendly (like to what degree), she would almost always be misinterpreted by most men.Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150852803777604312006-06-20T21:20:00.000-04:002006-06-20T21:20:00.000-04:00I'm with you there, Nienke :)I'm with you there, Nienke :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150815565963336352006-06-20T10:59:00.000-04:002006-06-20T10:59:00.000-04:00I think they should do a study on why they do such...I think they should do a study on why they do such stupid, waste-of-time-and-money studies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150807504483138172006-06-20T08:45:00.000-04:002006-06-20T08:45:00.000-04:00Trée darling, not to call you sensitive or anythin...Trée darling, not to call you sensitive or anything, but I get the feeling you're one of the better ones ;)<BR/><BR/>And thanks, I'll let her know.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Deborah, oh, I definitely misunderstand the opposite sex on occasion, but I don't tend to think that any guy who's just talking to me is giving me sexual signals... LOL :)Mellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17461471128865537538noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150778986396823462006-06-20T00:49:00.000-04:002006-06-20T00:49:00.000-04:00My husband and I both get misunderstood by the opp...My husband and I both get misunderstood by the opposite sex. It's amazing how sex-crazed people are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12725467.post-1150767256228814072006-06-19T21:34:00.000-04:002006-06-19T21:34:00.000-04:00Mmm, must be something in the blogosphere tonight....Mmm, must be something in the blogosphere tonight. This is the second post where I've had to admit, I don't understand women. My goal, therefore, is to try to do as little harm as possible. :-D<BR/><BR/>Hope and trust you are well Melly. Tell your mom I miss her blog.Tréehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11742129819547567342noreply@blogger.com